DISQUS

Tanveer Naseer · 3 months ago

Hi Sarah,


I think this is a great idea - and reminder - for those who are feeling stuck in that groove we all find ourselves trapped in every now and then. I'm sure one common feeling we all have when we're down in those trenches is a feeling of helplessness, that we lack the ability to solve whatever problem(s) are hanging over our head. While helping someone else with whatever problem they might have won't necessarily help you figure out how to fix your own, it's a wonderful and powerful reminder that all of us have it within ourselves to make a difference, to help make things better. It also reminds us that sometimes you can't go it alone and you need to reach out to others to help you get yourself back up.



It's definitely a game-changing idea, one where everybody wins.

Tanveer Naseer · 3 months ago

Hi Sarah,

I think this is a great idea - and reminder - for those who are feeling stuck in that groove we all find ourselves trapped in every now and then. I'm sure one common feeling we all have when we're down in those trenches is a feeling of helplessness, that we lack the ability to solve whatever problem(s) are hanging over our head. While helping someone else with whatever problem they might have won't necessarily help you figure out how to fix your own, it's a wonderful and powerful reminder that all of us have it within ourselves to make a difference, to help make things better. It also reminds us that sometimes you can't go it alone and you need to reach out to others to help you get yourself back up.

It's definitely a game-changing idea, one where everybody wins.

sarahrobinson · 3 months ago

Love it Tanveer. Yes - we ALWAYS have to power to help someone else - no matter how dire we believe our own circumstances to be. And in my book, asking for and giving help is a sign of supreme strength. Thank you for both of those reminders. :-)

monedays · 3 months ago

You know I completely agree with this, Sarah! That's what otheresteem is all about! Its what it does for YOUR life that is usually impressive, even if what you do for others seems like a small thing. When my eldest was about 6, he was throwing a fit one day and saying he was useless! (I hated that idea and wanted to counter it), so I took out a loaf of bread and had him (tearfully, grudgingly) make sandwiches. We then put them into a basket and headed to the streets. As we drove around to less priviledged parts of town or street corners where kids were wiping window shields, I asked him to give away the food he had made. Every time he stepped out with that basket and gave a sandwich away, he would return to the car with a brighter face. By the end of the 45 minute outing, he was beaming! I asked him if he still felt he was worthless. He smiled at me and said "No, there's always something I can do for somebody!" Neither one of us has ever forgotten that day!

monedays · 3 months ago

You know I completely agree with this, Sarah! That's what otheresteem is all about! Its what it does for YOUR life that is usually impressive, even if what you do for others seems like a small thing. When my eldest was about 6, he was throwing a fit one day and saying he was useless! (I hated that idea and wanted to counter it), so I took out a loaf of bread and had him (tearfully, grudgingly) make sandwiches. We then put them into a basket and headed to the streets. As we drove around to less priviledged parts of town or street corners where kids were wiping window shields, I asked him to give away the food he had made. Every time he stepped out with that basket and gave a sandwich away, he would return to the car with a brighter face. By the end of the 45 minute outing, he was beaming! I asked him if he still felt he was worthless. He smiled at me and said "No, there's always something I can do for somebody!" Neither one of us has ever forgotten that day!

sarahrobinson · 3 months ago

What a gift of a lifetime you gave him in that afternoon Monica. Just wow. We've taken the Young Turk to serve meals in homeless shelters and to deliver toys to a homeless daycare. I think children CRAVE the power in these lessons, don't you?!

sarahrobinson · 3 months ago

Love it Tanveer. Yes - we ALWAYS have to power to help someone else - no matter how dire we believe our own circumstances to be. And in my book, asking for and giving help is a sign of supreme strength. Thank you for both of those reminders. :-)

sarahrobinson · 3 months ago

What a gift of a lifetime you gave him in that afternoon Monica. Just wow. We've taken the Young Turk to serve meals in homeless shelters and to deliver toys to a homeless daycare. I think children CRAVE the power in these lessons, don't you?!

Nathalie Lussier · 3 months ago

I love it! It's something we often forget, myself included. Helping others totally lifts us out of "belly-button staring mode" like you so elegantly put it.


Time to get a-moving on this!

Nathalie Lussier · 3 months ago

I love it! It's something we often forget, myself included. Helping others totally lifts us out of "belly-button staring mode" like you so elegantly put it.

Time to get a-moving on this!

carolynjones · 3 months ago

Sarah, I love your cure for feeling down about oneself, trying escape mediocrity... Interestingly, 12 step programs also have this motto. If you want to stay quit, help someone! Do service! And you're right... it works!!! Nice blog, I hope to be back again soon. :-))

carolynjones · 3 months ago

Sarah, I love your cure for feeling down about oneself, trying escape mediocrity... Interestingly, 12 step programs also have this motto. If you want to stay quit, help someone! Do service! And you're right... it works!!! Nice blog, I hope to be back again soon. :-))

ItStartsWithUs · 3 months ago

"Find someone who is in worse shape than you are and go help them."


BAM

Nate St. Pierre · 3 months ago

"Find someone who is in worse shape than you are and go help them."

BAM